Is this you?
You had a long day full of worries. You had a long day full of chaos. It’s now night time. You feel resentful and disappointed the way your life has turned out. You just broke up with your lover? You just got laid off from your job? You have no idea how to turn it around. The universe is showing the negative side of life and you feel cursed. You’re overwhelmed with thoughts. Fears consume you. Anxiety runs you.
You say to yourself: “What’s going to happen tomorrow?” or “Can I just get through the week?” You feel that you’re a failure. This is the energy you start bringing to the world and people start to avoid you.
You isolate yourself into solitude, and do all the things to forget the imperfections going on in your life. Dysfunction becomes your normal. You try to make yourself happy in all the ways you can. You then take a walk as the moon is shining, and the stars light up the mid-night sky with beautiful colours. You remember movies like: “The Lion King!!!” You ask yourself: “Do I have what it takes to conquer the battle of the life I’m living in?” You tell yourself all the reasons you’re not good enough. You feel worthless like Simba did due to his uncle Scar. You start to believe it and it becomes your direction in life.
However, we all know how THE LION KING ended so in the end SIMBA became KING. What if there was a way you could change the attittude of negativity in your life? Your behaviour that attracts the negativity to your life? What if there was another approach? Would you do it? Stop telling yourself that dreams don’t come true, and happy endings only happen in the movies. Find the reason in yourself that’s stopping you from reaching for the stars. I know each and every last one of you has a vision of this person you desire to be or you see the successful person you think you can’t be.
It starts with meditation. It starts with visualizing. It starts with goal settling. Find a way to meditate and relax yourself so that you can live in today, and consistently work your way up each stair-case. Life is like a staircase. You don’t get to the top over night, but when you climb each one carefully and fall in love with the journey. You find your way to success when you don’t see it coming. Keep on meditating. Keep on going. Chase your dreams.
A broken heart can send you into TWO DIRECTIONS.
#1. It can send you into a place you’re spiraling out of control and making bad decisions.
#2. It can send you into heartache that transforms into a healing and growth process.
Has your heart ever been shattered this way? Did you feel strongly towards a woman you saw as your Cinderella? Did you feel so attached to a man you saw as your Prince Charming? Did life let you down in this dream called LOVE? Maybe you were the Knight in Shining Armour? Maybe you were the Damsel in Distress the Knight came to rescue? You and your significant other planned this happily ever after together. It was happy and then one day it wasn’t.
FAIRYTALES ONLY LAST FOR SO LONG.
The honeymoon phase is over. The moment is gone. In the same strike as lightening reality happens. Faster than you had come prepared. Did you ever reach this point in your love life? Did you ever feel it was time to give up on love? How did you pick up the pieces? How did you start over?
You might of just went through a break up. You might of just went through a divorce. You might be going through a separation. You might feel that you have nowhere to turn and that nobody understands what you could be going through. You have nobody to listen and nobody to hear you.
Every-time you reach out to a friend. They don’t want to hear the drama in your life. They just want to take you out and cheer you up. They don’t respect your feelings nor do they respect your broken heart. On the other note – maybe you’d rather not be a burden. I’m not sure your situation.
What I am sure is that healing takes time and nobody can tell you how long you need to heal. Do what you need to do to heal that broken heart and make it whole again. Everybody heals differently. You might see yourself as weak but the truth is you’re strong because you have a heart that knew how to love.
Imagine the world and how many people are together that don’t really want to be together. You were strong enough to face the world alone. You were strong enough to take the tears and walk your own path into your: CALLING.
I find when life offers you a broken heart. It also offers you a CHOICE. It offers you a choice to work through the pain until you find where you belong or to run backwards and repeat your bad patterns. In the end everything that happens will be a result of that choice.
You’re here and you’re beautiful. What is it you really want to do with your life? Why aren’t you focusing more on that? The truth is love will come and love will go but your gifts are forever. When you learn to fall in love with your passion before you fall in love with a person. You end up with the right person in the long run instead of the person who doesn’t understand you in the temporary. It’s good to love but it’s better to be loved back.
Don’t ever tell yourself that you’re not worth it. Don’t ever sell yourself short. YOU ARE WORTH IT!
The world we currently live in consists of six generations it needs to cater to. It’s important to know that so that we can know how to reach out to each generation. It’s important to know just how diverse the world is amongst the people we share this world with. We live in a world full of concepts, full of ideas, full of perceptions, full of perspectives, and most definitely full of all sorts of personality types. How do we bring all these differences together and turn it into: UNITY?
We first must understand and comprehend that each generation saw the world through a different viewpoint. Sometimes that’s a beautiful thing. Many times it’s a negative thing. Some people love change and embrace it. Some people hate change and forbid it. Each generation has it’s own form of rebellion. Sometimes the rebellion creates history and laws are changed for the better. Other times the rebellion causes riots and people are left feeling misunderstood and resentful.
One of the biggest fights of the most recent generation was for the LGBT community. The topic of LGBT people being allowed to get married particularly in the country such as: United States of America was all over the news. It was so controversial. It doesn’t matter where anybody stands on the topic. Were in 2017 and were all just trying to make it.
As people who chase dreams. I want to teach you all something. During times like this – it’s important to be authentic and to stand up your beliefs. It’s just as important to respect other peoples lives and to respect other peoples beliefs. At the end of the day we need to accept that we all cry the same tears and we all bleed the same red blood. We all laugh the same. We all hurt the same. We all have the same feelings on the inside. The way we express it on the outside might be different. We all have a story that moulded us into the person we’ve become. It doesn’t matter our upbringing or what generation we were born into. At the end of the day we are all human and we are all in this gift we call: LIFE together.
It’s valuable to study each generation without judgement especially if one is looking for: SUCCESS. It’s valuable for personal growth and making sure everybody you want to reach through your PRODUCT or your CONTENT gets reached. The most successful people in life know how to protect their brand. They know how to study their audience. They know how to market themselves effectively. It’s NEVER about pride. It’s about reaching for the goals you once made for yourself. Sometimes those goals require a change in ATTITUDE or in PERCEPTION to obtain them.
In the end every era has it’s things to be proud of and every era has it’s things to be ashamed of. Part of growth from failure to a success story means accepting differences. Part of the growth process to progress means finding a middle-ground and finding a balance with the people around you. The more we learn to discover ourselves ; the more likely we are to learn embrace others. The more we don’t do that. The more we miss out on the people meant to be our mentors and teachers.
It’s funny how often we live inside this box of the way we view the world for ourselves. We forget about the person were chasing and we forget that it takes work to become somebody different. In order to become it – we also have to become that somebody different in ourselves. The unknown often scares us away from becoming that person we want to become. There’s gonna be sacrifices. There’s gonna be failures. There’s gonna be fear. There’s gonna be newness. We attract ourselves to the environments were comfortable in. Were rarely prepared to step outside that box and learn from somebody who has already been on that road before us. Too many times we want to stay the alpha but truly successful people are people who yearn for learning.
It doesn’t matter what you’re doing right now or how you’re complaining about life. When you walk out of that office you’re in. When you get off that couch you’re stuck on. Somebody admires something in you and wishes they could be it too. Somebody looks up to you. Somebody wants to become you. I know you’re all saying: Why Me? Not true. It’s time to stop living in denials of your truths and your god given gifts whether it’s with people or with work – whatever it is. You need to take that strength in yourself and you need to start focusing on that.
In the end you will get up from wherever you are in your life and focus on that one strength which will lead you to many more and to your purpose. In the end your bravery and your courage will be a powerful testimony to someone going through what you did as you guide them to success through your failures and you never know where that could lead you.
Don’t put down the next generation for their downfalls. Use your downfalls to see where you’re able to become their mentors. If you can do that you have no idea the legacy you might leave behind years from now. It’s not about winning today. It’s about winning when it counts. Don’t ever think you’re not good enough. Take all the pain and show everybody they’re good enough. In the end that attitude is like a magnet and will draw people to you and to your business and YOU WILL GROW!!!! You’re powerful. There’s a purpose in every last person. Some never look deep enough to find it. Today, look deep enough and find it.
You must have plans to become successful. You must have plans to become great. I know the world’s probably been unfair to you. You spent so many days lonely saving the world. You spent so many nights crying feeling under-appreciated. You try so hard to dedicate your life to something – humanity work, a cause, family, a career. The only thing you ever seem to meet is: failure. You desire so much to have something to fall back on when the world feels against you. You want somebody to just love you for you. You want to feel accepted instead of rejected. The more you give your heart; the more you realize how rare and unique your heart really is.
You feel so misunderstood. You sat at home flicking through the channels on television – didn’t you? You couldn’t find anything to cheer you up. All you found were reminders of the person you’ll never become. Depression took over your life. Tears after tears; nobody sees you. Heartbreak after heartbreak; nobody hears you. You’d rather be isolated than an attention seeker. You’d rather be dedicated than a user. You’re dealing with your blues. You’re too compassionate. You’re too different. You felt you did everything in this life right. What do you keep meeting? Rock Bottom. Everything nobody prepared you for. The good news is this is the story of all successful people destined for something. You should take those tears and stop comparing yourself.
You try to go church; they say pray. God will guide you. God ain’t even guiding them. You go to the world; they say move forwards – leave the negativity behind. Patterns of hurt cycles all around you. The mystery of life has now become your puzzle of confusion. The new philosophy you’re searching for.
You wish you could be a dancer, an athlete, the next wrestler, some type of a champion. Dreams you once had. Dreams faded now to dust. All the successful people you saw as friends; they now treat you as an enemy. Competition. You’re alone in the world. You’re empty. You regroup. Nobody chases after you. You don’t want anybody else’s place. You just want to keep your dignity. The world points out your flaws never noticing theirs. They’re perfect. What are you? Another broken person.
Vulnerabilities. Insecurities. They use them against you. You let it get to you. Their lies suddenly become your truths. Who are you? Maybe they’re right – aren’t they? You thought they were helping you. You found out they were using you. You wonder how disingenuous people get all the praise but your good golden heart always gets taken for granted. You see them winning – well you feel you’re losing. How did you get here? Remember that you’re a fighter, and a conqueror.
Every time we walk outside people judge us and we judge them. Unintentionally. It’s human habit. We always see our own perspectives. We never see the next persons perspective. It’s why lovers always fall a part. Same hearts. Different love languages. It’s why enemies always end up together. The materialistic world sells. The superficial world is what everybody wants. The reality is we all have imperfections and none of us like to see them in ourselves. It’s why people always fall for the ego feed instead of the reality. Fantasy always feels so much better. We never look in the mirror. We always look at others. It’s easier. We compare. We fail to look at the depth of the things that are in front of us. We fail to look at how we reciprocate our energy and conduct ourselves in character. We often look out one window. We look at the window with the beautiful garden. We forget that even houses have several windows. We all see the world differently. We all came from a different place. We need to carry ourselves with empathy.
First Impressions. They speak volumes. We often wish we could trade places with somebody else. Some go as far as double lives. Even triple lives. It’s hard to know who is genuine when you keep your dignity in a world that often feels like it needs a hero. We see the nice houses, the fancy cars, the success stories of those that surround us. It looks like the whole nine yards and a nice picket fence. We envy it. We never look deeper. If we did – we’d realize it’s all air brushed. Photo-shopped. Facades. Some grass only looks greener. The only person we need to grow in is ourselves. We need to become the example of what we think a decent person is. The right people will follow.
Why do we compare ourselves to others so much? We can’t fix the world. We can only fix ourselves. Why do we judge people before we even know them? My question to you is: what is your definition of success? The truth is success doesn’t happen when we cheat our way to it. It happens when we survive all the storms that life sends our way and we grow from each failure. Everybody ends up getting karma in the end depending on the choices they pursue in the moment.
For some people success is fame. For others it’s money. For others it’s keeping a relationship. The list goes on. There are so many people who turn their life into everything one could desire. They lose everything they really need in the process. What will your legacy be at the end of your life? Will it be one you’re proud of? Will you love the person that you were in this life? If you saw your funeral today – who would you be in it? Successful people stop caring what others think about them. They care what those closest to them think of them and they build from there. They don’t go looking for it. It finds them in the end because of who they are. Fall in love with your passion, and never stop falling in love with it. Love it so much that you embrace it with everything that you are and people become better because they know you. That’s the only way to success. In the end your story will be something others relate to once you become the person you never thought you could be. You’ve been that person all a long. You were just focusing your energy in all the wrong places.