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Cardi B took Offset back

I loved watching CARDI B when she was just ranting on Instagram giving internet advice from her own personal experience. She’s a story of rags to riches that everybody loves to watch. As she has climbed higher in the success ladder. She’s lost friends, and attracted more enemies. Good or bad ; the tabloids stay writing about her.

They write about alleged rumors in her past. They write about her past as a stripper. They write about her being on a reality tv show. They write about her Instagram rants. They write about her enemies. They write about her marriage. Everybody loves to dig to find a problem with someone who stays winning. She basically raps about what people what to hear because regardless what you think about her music, people are buying it. She has a Grammy now.

When you look on the internet though….everybody loves to judge hers and Offsets marriage. Everyone sees him as a player who will continue to cheat on her. I find it unfortunate that just because she’s in the spotlight people can’t accept her for the human that she is.

 At the end of the day. I’m always happy when people who have a child together work things out. I once went back to my sons father and people were extremely nasty about it. The sad part is that me and him actually got a long when we were together. If not for everyone’s opinions due to their own realities. I think we’d still be together.

I find it disheartening how people force their own realities unto others. Look, sometimes you will hear me say I don’t believe in marriage, but unless your husband is actually in my business causing my life problems. I’m never going to be like: “You should leave your husband!” I’m going to be like “Can’t you all work it out?”

To me if you married a man, he’s still your husband, – you know? Divorce is way more expensive than marriage is. Statistically, second marriages don’t normally last. People can be cruel. People can be bullies. They love to see people fail. In my eyes Offset is her husband. Offset is her child’s father.

I hope they always work it out. She is a human being at the end of the day. Good luck to them.

 

Happy Father’s Day

As father’s day comes around the corner. It is time to wish everybody a Happy Father’s Day whether you see your children or don’t see them. I think there are a lot of fathers who want to be there but they’re scared to be there because they don’t have a good relationship with the child’s mother. I know you’re still thinking about your child/children this weekend. Mother’s day always gets a lot of attention. Father’s day doesn’t get enough attention. The church I used to attend always has a father’s day walk and a picnic in the park and that was one of the things I always appreciated about it.

The day doesn’t give you a choice other than to do reflection. You might be reflecting your mistakes that got you in this place where you’re an absent father and missing your children trying not to think about it. You might be reading the cards your children made you that say: “Happy Father’s Day.” Either way try to give your child a phone call because there are so many children out there who would give anything just to give their father’s a happy fathers day card if their father would just simply call them.

I don’t care how many messes were made in the past because by DNA you’ll always be the father of your child. It’s up to you to be the bigger person and to be patient. Put your pride down and your love for your child up. I’ll keep you men in my prayers today that someday life works out for you. I know fathers day is a hard one for so many males today. If you’re a mother understand a mans fears and try to see past him into his tears.

I’m wishing you men a Happy Father’s day because every child wants to know their biological father at the end of the day. Some children just grow up and lose sight of the dream simply because they feel like you gave up on them. Never give up trying to be a good role-model to your child/children no matter the circumstances that you sometimes feel you’re put in by your child/children’s mother. As long as you try. That’s all that matters.

I can’t imagine never knowing my father. My mother went for a check-up at the hospital today and when she was done she told me: “They found something growing in my neck that they have to check out. The think it’s cancer growing again.”

My mom first got diagnosed with lyphoma cancer around Mother’s Day a few years a go. She went through blood transfusions, radiation, and chemo treatments. She even lost all of her hair and resorted to wigs for a while.

I remember it being Father’s Day and I didn’t get to see my father that year because he was in the hospital at my Mother’s side supporting her through all of her treatments. She was in the hospital for quite a while. All I can tell you father’s who struggle to get a long with your child’s mothers is that my father stood by my mom through cancer.

May his example in my life be an example to you to try to make it right.

Dear Father,

I don’t know how you did it being blind, raising my siblings and I. I know we didn’t always make your life easy. I know you always act tough. You taught me to put God first in everything. I know I didn’t always turn out to be the little girl you raised. I remember as a little girl you brought us to church every Sunday. You always made sure we were there early and went to both services. You always reserved the second row of pews so that we would be able to get the full message.

I remember how you would read us bible stories at bed time instead of fairy-tales. You wanted us to have morals instilled. You wanted us to appreciate the simple things. You always tried your best to raise up christian children who carried Jesus with us into adulthood so that we would live a lifestyle of morality. You prayed for us always that we would put God first in everything.

I know some of us aren’t Christian anymore. I know some of us have strayed so far from the way you raised us. I know it’s caused you disappointment over the years. I just wanted to tell you I’m proud of the father you’ve been because you’ve always tried to do your best.

There has been ups and downs. It has taken us years to understand how difficult our mothers childhood was as she was part of the 60’s scoop. All you ever did was try to give her the fairytale she never had and we were her gifts.

You’re a selfless man. You’re a selfless husband to our mother. You chose a path that few would and showed / role-modeled uncoditional love to our mother and every day you fought to make it work so that we’d never come from a broken home.

You role-modelled devotion and you role-modelled loyalty. You set the bar so high for me and my sisters when it comes to picking a future husband for ourselves. I could never imagine a different life than the one I have. The family we were born into is unique and that’s okay. Family is the greatest blessing and God chooses the family we are born into. Family is a gift.

You always put us first before anything no matter what even though you had a 9/5 job. You worked every day to provide. I’m not strong today because of me. I’m strong because I had parents who were strong for me. I remember when I was in grade 8 and I was horrible at math. You would help me with my home-work for two hours until I got it. I remember how proud I was when I learned algebra. You did everything you had to to always keep a roof over our heads. I see all the sacrifices you made for us.

I want you to know that you’re my daddy. May I be the daughter you raised up. May I never lose my good heart. May I have as much unconditional love for my future husband as you always had for my mom.

You’re an over protective father at times and because of you I’ve learned to be an over protective big sister. You raised us to be humble people who look out for eachother. I’m sorry for all the times I let you down as a daughter. All the pain I once caused you in my rebellious days that I had to grow up myself to understand. You see the best in all of your children. I hope I can always make my relationship with GOD strong. I hope I can always make you proud.

Love,

Your daughter.

Happy Father’s Day.

Happy Father’s day to all the men out there who are great fathers to their children. Happy Father’s Day to all the men out there stepping up being a step father to those who don’t have a father. Happy Father’s day to all the adoptive fathers and Foster fathers. This day is for all of you. It’s not always the easist thing to do but every day you men take on those roles and some of you aren’t appreciated enough. Happy Father’s day to the grandfathers. I respect any man who steps up. A father isn’t always a father by DNA. Sometimes it’s the person who has been there sinc day one and loves the child regardless of a DNA test or whatever the situation. If that man is you. Happy Fathers Day!

Respect For All Mothers

As I look out the window from the house I live in ; the skies outside are cloudy. I still say to myself: “What a beautiful day to wake up on!” A day we get to reflect on how thankful and gracious we are for our MOTHERS. This weekend I went to a Mother’s Day program where we discussed many things about our MOTHERS. We discussed fears that a MOTHER has. We discussed hopes and dreams that a MOTHER has for her/our children. If you’re a MOTHER – HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY! Three values that my MOTHER instilled into me were: #1. Humanitarian Work, #2. Respect, and #3. Faith. These gifts have stayed with me as some of my characteristics.

In the previous weeks in my city and surrounding cities ; there has been a bunch of flooding. This has occurred due to the melting snow last month, and the excessive rain that has caused a high rising levels of the river this year. Many volunteers have gone out, and filled sandbags to try to prevent the river from flooding more. Homes have been damaged. Some people had to evacuate their homes. Many people are without flood insurance because this was a rare occurrence due to the climate change. It’s devastating. The cleanup process will start to begin as the river slowly returns to normal.

Last weekend, I took a nature walk a long one of my childhood memories where my siblings and I used to go to the beach when we were children. We used to build sand-castles there and have many family picnics. After this – we would go to the park and play. It was heartbreaking to see how high the river rose. The cherished places I once sat have now been submerged in water. I also had a friend of the family and her area also got flooded. She was fortunate that it was just her staircase to her beach, and that her house is on high-ground. Her neighbours on the other hand were not so lucky. A lot of the children from her children’s hockey team came to help them fill sand-bags. Beautiful.

We never expect natural disasters to happen so close to home when were looking forward to closing winter and entering spring. As the saying goes: “April Showers Bring May Flowers.” Where I live, those April Showers, brought some May Floods. Each of us in the community is looking for a way we can help. There are ways in which people can help and one is to sign up to become a VOLUNTEER. This is something that my MOTHER has always instilled into me. Humanitarian Work.

Growing up, I was taught the value of Family. I would watch my mother sacrifice so much for us as she would often VOLUNTEER at my school. It’s something I’ve definitely carried into my adult life as a MOTHER myself now. Growing up, I often watched her VOLUNTEER at soup kitchens where they make soup for HOMELESS people. This is the life she has instilled into me. I think the goal in this life is to be inspirational and be the reason someone else’s life is better because our footsteps were in it. I’m so grateful for my MOTHER and the heart she gave me for others because of her example to me.

She also left me with FAITH. I think everybody needs something to fall back on. Life is full of storms we have to weather. I watched my mother overcome so many obstacles. I considered her a hero. I considered her a conquerer. I considered her a SUPERWOMAN. The rain will pour…but the sun will always come out.

I want to leave you with one last example of my mother. She was pregnant with my little sister who is now grown up. The doctors told her she wouldn’t make it. She told the doctors: “If this is the way God wants to take me…this is the way he will take me.” She kept my sister because of the faith she had in GOD, and today my sister is living her dreams. I could not imagine a life without my sister. Now every time dark days come. I remember the strength of my Mother…and I find the courage to press on.

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