Are you interested in that dapper man with the nice watch? He got such style and class. Are you interested in that beautiful woman? She has that glow you’ve never seen before. Are you making yourself go crazy wondering if he/she likes you? Questions that bother us every day. We either blush about it or get a headache about it. Unless were confident and bold. It’s really hard for us to know so we ask everybody around us except the actual person because we all fear rejection.

There are all kinds of things we have to consider. One of the first things we have to consider is which category a man or woman has placed us in. We all get placed into categories. Men tend to put us into the category of Friendship, Sex, Dating, or WIFEY. Women tend to put men in the category of I want to marry him. I want to friend-zone him. I want to see where it goes. Everything in life must start with an attraction and we first need to find out what attracts each gender. Men tend to be attracted to women visually meanwhile women tend to fall for men mentally.

Women want the fairy-tale and men want to find a woman they can give the fairy-tale to. The problem is women look for love and fall in love a lot faster than men do. Men take a lot longer to fall in love, but when they finally do the love is true. It has to do with the way we were programmed. Women were programmed to look for PRINCE CHARMING. Men were programmed to build a career before finding love. More often than not we want men to think like women and women to think like men. We forget the need for important balance in our thinking. A common thing to say is that men are the hands and women are the heart. Once you understand that balance and become confident in it you will have an easier time attracting a mate.

So how can you tell if a woman likes you?

Simple…if you’re on a first date and she starts playing with her earrings and stuff – she likes you. Women tend to get nervous around the man they fancy and they start playing with their hair. If you see a woman doing that it’s pretty obvious that she wants you in some type of way and she wants you to charm her. You make her feel safe.

How can you tell if a man likes you?

Simple…most men don’t waste time with women they don’t like. Once they’re in your presence they’re pretty bold. Look them in the eyes and see if they look back. If their pupils dilate. They like you. Eye contact and dilated pupils is one of the biggest signs of attraction.

It’s just a matter of knowing what category you fit into with them because men and women are attracted to people in different ways. Make sure that what you want with them is what they want with you. Sometimes a woman will want to marry a man, but a man will only want to sleep with her. Sometimes a man will want to date a woman, but a woman will only see him as an emotional shoulder. Make sure to set clear boundaries for yourself before getting involved in a situation where you both wanted different things.

It’s important to always keep standards on yourself because a lot of hearts wouldn’t break if we all went into each relationship knowing what we wanted out of it, and stopped wasting our time with mates who wanted something different. Love is a beautiful thing but it can also hurt when your love languages are different.

Irene Mielke

Irene H. Mielke (born May 21) is a writer (ie. content writer, blogger, poet, song writer, ghost writer, soon-to-be-author). She can write just about anything. Her first poem was published in the local Ottawa newspaper at the age of 12. She has had her article featured in a Toronto magazine a few years ago. She has also won top articles for her writing pieces twice. Irene is Canadian. Her roots are of mixed heritages. Irene’s origin consists of German and Indigenous descent. Irene struggled in her teenage years and as a result became a high school drop out. Those were some difficult times. She couch surfed, lived with roommates, and so on. She sometimes slept outside while trying to go to school. It was these experiences that humbled her early in life. She eventually graduated high-school with top grades and went on to pursue higher goals. She loves to read and support others in becoming the best version of themselves. She also loves to go the gym and her favourite sport is soccer.