Find A New Approach

Everyone expects to live to be one hundred years old. Everyone wants to be the one to make it to one hundred years old. What do we do with our lives until we make it to the big one hundred? Many of us won’t make it to the big one hundred, but we all dream that we will.

Everyone spends their free time searching for true friends, true love, or true success. Is any of it realistic? Is any of it fulfilling? What’s the long term goal? What’s the purpose? In our youth we search for true friendships we hope will last a life-time. In our young adulthood we search for our soul-mate, and we hope we’ll find a fairytale. When dreams let us down – we begin the journey of searching for success.

The world could be a lonely place sometimes and we could hit rock-bottom other times ; as we watch our dreams fade away. It can leave u crushed, scattered, and heartbroken. Life can be confusing when we haven’t figured out our identity yet, and were trying to find our place in the world. Self-Discovery. We meet brokenness after brokenness. Failures after failures. We think there’s no way up from the pit. The truth is there’s always a way up and a way out.

Were just afraid because of the big “F” word called: FEAR. Were used to our comfort zone, and we don’t want to leave it. The unknown scares us. Were afraid to let go of things and people we’ve become attached to. The happy ending is often right in front of us, but were so afraid to take the risk to find it. We constantly run back to pain and what we know because it’s where we feel most at ease. Hurt cycle after hurt cycle. We stay looking for the problems in everybody else. We forget to fix the patterns within ourselves.

All failure requires is a new approach until you find the right approach. Instead of try a new approach. We quit. This is the way we’ve trained our mind. We need to learn to re-train our mind to accept that all things are possible with effort. We often forget to accept it’s okay to be different. We often forget to ask ourselves: What do we really want as the long-term goal?

In life if we just learned to focus on the long-term goal instead of the right now. We’d make it. Most of us want the right now. We don’t want to put in the work to have the long term goal. Change scares us. Understandable. We often don’t have the same friends we did ten years a go. We often don’t have the same lovers we did in our early 20’s. When we were young – we would date for fun. As we mature ; we date for stability. In the end sometimes nothing works out for us. Life isn’t planned. We don’t control what happens tomorrow. We do however control what we do today in order to bring in the results tomorrow. It all starts with our habits. If life isn’t going the way you want it to. Don’t try to change others. Look for the things in yourself you need to find a new approach to and change your habits. In the end growth is what produces results.


Irene Mielke

Irene H. Mielke (born May 21) is a writer (ie. content writer, blogger, poet, song writer, ghost writer, soon-to-be-author). She can write just about anything. Her first poem was published in the local Ottawa newspaper at the age of 12. She has had her article featured in a Toronto magazine a few years ago. She has also won top articles for her writing pieces twice. Irene is Canadian. Her roots are of mixed heritages. Irene’s origin consists of German and Indigenous descent. Irene struggled in her teenage years and as a result became a high school drop out. Those were some difficult times. She couch surfed, lived with roommates, and so on. She sometimes slept outside while trying to go to school. It was these experiences that humbled her early in life. She eventually graduated high-school with top grades and went on to pursue higher goals. She loves to read and support others in becoming the best version of themselves. She also loves to go the gym and her favourite sport is soccer.