Dealing with Jealous Friends

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10 –

 Have you ever had a friend you thought you were close to, but as you tried to focus on success they started to drift away from you? Have you ever had a friend, and you felt like the only reason they were your friend was because of the man you were dating? Have you ever had a friend who would vent your problems to you, and if you didn’t take their side they turned you into a middle person and the enemy? These are the consequences of a good heart.
 When their life is positive they ignore you, they belittle you, and they put you down as if you’re not enough for them. When their life is negative, they run to you like their only friend, but blame you for all your problems until they go back to being clouded again. They secretly hate you. They secretly admire you. They’re not friends. They’re fans. Fans can love you and fans can hate you but the irony is everything they say about you is an illusion of who they believe that you are so that they can feel better about themselves. Friends know who you are and want to support you to succeed. It’s hypocrisy. These are lessons in life we must learn if we want to get ahead. We can live our life pleasing the crowd, because the crowd will keep us at the stop sign. We’ve gotta learn to drive on our own so that we can see the whole country.

 Some lessons you end up learning are:

#1. Don’t believe people who claim to care just because of who they’re in life. They only care if you play their game. The second you don’t. They make you up to save face with themselves.

# 2. Never stop at the surface. Learn to read beyond it. Those who read the surface end up playing the fool. Anybody can do the right things on the outside. Very few can mean them in their heart.

#3. Never hurt somebody back just because they hurt you. We all have to answer to GOD in the end. It’s not about winning in life. It’s about winning with GOD!

So many people in the world are chasing money. So many people in the world are chasing popularity maybe hoping to become famous. I never thought about wanting fame. I never even liked being in the spotlight. I don’t care to have that type of power over people. Why isn’t anybody ever taught the dream of just being happy? To me I just want to be happy with who I was on the inside at the end of my life. I think a lot of people trade who they’re on the inside just to seek out validation from others.
Sometimes it can lead you to bad circles in friendships and your best friend can often become your number one enemy. Ever watched: “Pretty Woman?” The man met the hooker on the street thinking he was trusting his co-worker and then his co-worker betrayed him when he fell in love with the hooker who he empathized with. Julia Roberts did amazing in that role. There are times in life when you’re going to have to learn to trust God more than you trust your spouse. The world is filled with facades. It’s filled with disloyalty, dishonesty, and betrayal. So many people are out for themselves. I have never seen marriage as some fairy-tale ending like so many I know. I saw it as just settling to impress your friends. I think it’s nice to have pictures saying:

“Oh look at me, I got married young….look back at those brighter days!!!”

I also feel for me that marriage is extremely sacred and not something you settle in just for others to praise you. I would rather not spend 70 years with someone I know I’ll get bored of in 8 years. I guess that makes me a courageous person because I choose to walk away from love. I think it intimidates people when they realize our perspectives on life are different. I have friends who have become enemies myself. They would rather to treat me like a competition than a human being. It’s unfortunate.

Were all people ; each given a different set of strengths and weaknesses. I don’t understand why sometimes we can’t just all be on the same team and balance our talents out with each-other so that we can both find success. I didn’t learn to be independent over night ; as a matter of fact I spent many years in co-dependence. I learned it through overcoming adversity. I think a lot of people get things the easy way and then when you fight for things the hard way. They expect you to allow them to control you, to manipulate you, and then you become passionate and outspoken and you tell them:

“This is my dream!!”

They get mad when you don’t share their dreams with them. They get mad when you start going on a different path than they are on. The nay-saying starts. The gossip starts. Even your best friend will turn you to a cartoon character. The goals you chase they’re afraid to. No matter how hard you fight for your dreams. It’s going to be the people you have the most respect for who do the most to you. They call this the: “Devils Distractions.”

It’s when the devil knows you’re about to make it and makes you feel insecure with fear that you can’t make it.  I think deep down no matter how successful a person is. Deep down there was that fear. I think were all afraid, but if we stay afraid of change, we will miss our blessings. Part of finding success is learning to adapt to change. Stop arguing with the past, and start fighting for your future. Stop hating others, and start asking GOD the reason for this test. Once you do….you will see….it wasn’t fear…it was GOD TESTING.

Every obstacle you go through is GOD preparing you for a greater purpose.

 

 

 

Irene Mielke
 

Irene enjoys writing and inspiring everybody that she meets. She has wisdom for days when it comes to life. She loves to read and support others in becoming the best version of themselves. She also loves to go the gym and her favourite sport is soccer.

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