Bipolar Disorder Vs. Narcissm in relationships
You fell head over heels in love with someone you invested so much time into. You gave them so much of your emotions and your heart. You now feel like they were only giving you false hope or you were just getting played. Now you’re in this phase we all like to call: The Break-Up Phase. What a roller-coaster ride. You forget why you love each-other and the only thing your friends can see about you and your partner or now ex is how much you both hate each-other and are wrong for each-other. We’ve all been there right.
The most painful part of this break-up is the guy you broke up with or who broke up with you is now telling everyone that you’re CRAZY. You feel the need to fight and defend yourself. You just broke up with a girl or she broke up with you and now she’s running all your PERSONAL BUSINESS you once trusted her with to everybody in your circles. You feel like you’re being emasculated and she’s causing you drama. You’re both on a power trip to prove to each-other who was the better lover and who deserves better. It’s also known as an ego trip. You’re in the stage where you don’t really miss the person. You only miss the memories. You’re dehumanizing each-other. It makes you feel better in some ways rather than accepting you couldn’t meet each-others needs.
Your friends all tell you discard him or discard her. You know your friends will always be there, but you’re not sure if your lover will ever be who you want them to be. It messes with your emotions. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times in this phase I’ve heard men start calling their exes bipolar and women start calling their exes narcissists. Those are very hurtful terms, although sometimes justified we need to make sure were not throwing them around loosely.
A lot of times when I hear a man call a woman bipolar. He is saying she had standards and he couldn’t meet them. A lot of times when I hear a woman call a man a narcissist. She is saying he became super emotional and she couldn’t change him into what she wanted him to be. Although they’ll never admit it. The point is why do we choose partners we know bring out the worst in us instead of focus on finding ourselves so that we choose partners who match us enough to bring out the best in us. The fact we would even have to find these labels for people is a reflection on our own poor choices. Where does that stem from? We attract back to us the things we are insecure about in ourselves so if that’s what were attracting. It’s not them who needs to change. It’s us.
What is a narcissist anyways? It’s literally a person who has a false sense of self. What is a bipolar person? It’s literally someone who has a personality that feels like a roller coaster they can be really manic or really depressed. How did they became that way? Both answers are due to something they went through in life that made them feel the need to find a route for survival.