A woman of Virtue
“You need to fix your hair!”
“I’m going to pay for you to have brand name clothes.”
“You need a hair cut.”
“If you love me cut your hair like this, so I can take you out in public.”
It was extremely insulting, and I was extremely offended.
He thought that treating me like this was his way of feeling secure in our relationship. If I listened, if I was submissive than I was worth keeping. I decided to take off all my nice clothes and wear clothes from the thrift shop. I decided to take off all my make-up and embrace my natural beauty. He stopped trying to control me once he realized I was confident in my natural self. To me: he was the one not secure in himself and wanted me to be his trophy girlfriend.
Any time a man tries to change you – being a submissive woman is not the solution. He may turn out to be happy, but you won’t be. In the end that man is testing if he can manipulate you or not. Often these men will cheat on you if you listen to them. They want you to be confused stuck in the thought process of: “I did all this for you to like me….why don’t you like me anymore?”
It’s how they gain power over you. The second they have power over you ; they’re free to have their cake and eat it too. This is a red flag. No woman with value even gives those men the time of day and if she does he will devalue her as someone to cheat on. Don’t even respond to men like that. Not worth it. What will hurt them is the fact you found better and didn’t want them either and that’s exactly what men like this deserve.
It is the fact that I learned to read through games that has stopped me from jumping into relationships.